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There's an intense pressure!

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    September 26, 2016 6:45 AM CEST
    Our relationship is just two months old. Whenever we visit each other, we usually embrace and cuddle each other for minutes.
    We've never kissed, but the pressure to do so is so intense.
    I love her, and I'm not willing to build our relationship on a faulty foundation.

    What practical ways can we keep our thoughts and bodies pure till marriage?
    • 194 posts
    September 27, 2016 11:33 AM CEST
    First, I advice you read some of pastor's articles on things like this. I am glad you know what is right and you really want to build on a solid foundation.
    My advice is this, you need to change your focus. The pressure is intense because you both are focusing on the physical(flesh). You are so attracted to the outer person and it consumes your mind and thought.
    This is the time to focus on the personality, spirituality and other areas.
    1. Ensure you dont meet alone in enclosed places anymore. Meet where there are other people around you.
    2. Your conversations should be about getting to know the other persons reaction and perception about various aspects and issues of life.
    3. You should engage in meaningful activities (SPIRITUAL, PHYSICAL, INTELLECTUAL, etc) together.
    BUILD PURE FRIENDSHIP NOT BASED ON "FLESHLY LUSTS".