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The first day I saw my wife: the lessons and the wisdom

  • It happened while I was on the campus in Olabisi Onabanjo University. We knew it as Ogun State University. She was a new student, a fresher or “jambite” as we called it then! One way or the other, she ended up getting accommodation in the hall where I lived.


    You see, in God, there is nothing like coincidence. It is always divine incidence. When God wants a purpose to be fulfilled, everything will work out together in a God orchestrated drama that Hollywood and Nollywood cannot match!

    We are all actors and actresses in the movie of our destiny, produced and directed by God Himself.


    This is why it is a lot of wisdom to stay within the script. The Almighty God has scripted your life; and your ability to stay with the script is what will ensure a block bursting flick ever!


    So my roommates and I went around to welcome these “Freshers.” Only God knows who sent us.

    When I saw her for the first time, ever, “something” (I guess that is the Holy Spirit) told me that would be my wife.

    I looked at her very well, and I saw that she was beautiful.


    You see, some of us think physical appearance does not matter. Well, I will tell you the truth, it matters a lot. It is not a sin to consider physical attraction. In fact, not taking that into consideration can cause some other serious issues later in the future.


    So, I knew she would be my wife. I have never had a girlfriend before then, so there were no options to compare her with. I simply accepted what I heard.

    Well, I said nothing and I did nothing for the next one year thereabout.

    I saw her almost every other day, and because we were also in the same fellowship, but somehow, I knew it wasn’t time to say anything.

    Now, this is where you need to study the pattern through which God speaks to you and to understand His dealings with you.


    As a child of God, there will be a pattern. He might change methods, but there will be a pattern.


    It is good as a child of God to look within and patiently follow His leading. The Holy Spirit is always seeking to lead.


    The first thing is to know, believe and expect to be led by the Holy Spirit. If you are a child of God, it is your right to be led. Confusion is not your portion. Not just in the area of relationships and marriage, but in all other areas. One of the ways you can fill your heart with faith for His leading is to fill your heart and mouth with scriptures that talks about leading of God!


    Eat such scriptures. Scriptures are spiritually edible and they can really be sumptuous, to the extent that sometimes you forget physical food. When you find His word, it becomes a rejoicing and joy in your heart as you masticate through meditation.


    I would study and study again. My friends and I would do “Word Vigils” like we were studying for an examination and indeed, it was an examination of life!

    So I got the information that she would be my wife but did nothing for one year! This was due to two reasons:

    1. I was shy

    2. I somehow knew it wasn’t time.


    You see, when God speaks, His voice can be resolute and strong that you often jump out without finding out details.

    The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills. (Song of Songs 2:8 KJV)

    The voice of God can be strong! His voice comes with a burden, but you see there are two dimensions to this burden. There is

    1. Burden for preparation

    2. Burden for performance


    There are times God speaks to you and it is just information because you are His friend. It is a burden to prepare, not performance, not to step out.

    This is why God can show a sister as your wife and you propose and she gives you a resounding, painful NO! You see, God gave you information but didn’t ask you to step out, but you stepped out and she was not ready!


    God told me about teaching relationships in 1997. I started teaching it in 2007! But I did try to step out in 1998, trying to organize a campus wide meeting and it was monumental failure in terms of attendance! Even members of the church I was pastoring then didn’t come!


    So, it is important to know God’s dealing in regards to timing.

    As married couples there are even more decisions to make. Keep asking Him before you take that decision, before you make that business decision and He will always speak to you. Don’t be hasty! Be led of God. That is how not to make a bad business decision. There is nothing wrong in asking God again and again.

    God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this; that power belongeth unto God.

    (Psalms 62:11 KJV)


    This morning, I speak the light of God that comes from His word into your life, I declare that confusion is not your portion. I pray for married couples, God will direct you in that decision you need to make in Jesus name!


    I am led of God


    Pray that God will lead you in that decision you need to make


    For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. (Romans 8:14 KJV)


    Study how to be led by God


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